Dating As a Single Mom: Thoughts, Tips & Advice
by Eboni
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My thoughts and commentary on dating as a single mom, men who do not date mothers, and advice for single moms re-entering the dating game.
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I hate the term “baby mama” so passionately. It comes with so much stigma and negative connotation – I resent it.
Anyway…. the author of the blog makes some valid posts. But, like you, I know many good, quality men who would date a woman with a child.
And even prior to getting married, I didn’t mind dating a man with a child. One child was my limit, however (with the exception being a divorced or widowed man, who actually had a nuclear family and the relationship with his wife simply didn’t work out).
ITA Yaki. Even as a woman with a child, my first preference is a man without children though I certainly have/would date a man with a child. But if given an option – I’d go for the childless first. I absolutely draw the line at a man with multiple children with multiple women. There’s nothing hot, cute or understandable about that in any circumstance.
“I absolutely draw the line at a man with multiple children with multiple women. There’s nothing hot, cute or understandable about that in any circumstance.”
Ditto!
Eb…
I am not even a single mother but I can see the concerns from both sides. Good tips for single moms…:)
(LMAO@ your sister in the background! That cracked me up!)
Tati – she got a comment on everything! I’m trying to convince her to do a video on Sugar Babes :looksaround:
it always amazes me how you are able to speak openly about topics that touch close to home without getting defensive or angry, etc., esp when someone is saying something potentially offensive. that is truly awesome. you are such a phenomenal woman eboni.
it’s also noteworthy that u never try and put yourself “above” any other single mother, although in many ways, your situation differs from stereotypical single parents. specifically, i always think about the fact that you gave birth in your mid-20s, as opposed to as a teenager. you were older, more informed, and most importantly, an adult. i guess at the end of the day, single parenthood=single parenthood, no matter how you arrived in the situation, i.e. divorce, death, abandonment, etc., but it still tends to be judged differently from outsiders (and even insiders.)
lmao @ macaroni necklace and lopsided ashtray, hahahhahahah!
as for whether we have had a topic re: dating rules & kids in the event of a divorce….shahid refuses to ever acknowledge anything like that, so instead, i always have to be morbid, and propose the scenario that one of us dies tragically and prematurely. that being said, however, no–we’ve never discussed what would be the appropriate waiting time, etc.