Heat,Shanel Cooper-Sykes & The Mad Rapper!
by Eboni
Filed under :: Real Talk ::
Link to Shanel’s Video: Why Women Have Fake & Unrealistic Expectations
Link to Shanel’s Website: Stilettos in the Kitchen
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I am definitely reflective.
“If nothing changes, then nothing changes.”
Real talk…. and so many people still look for reasons to blame others… Start with you… until you change something! YOU have been a great motivator of change in my life… thanks!!!
Mani looks great. Dern, its been far too long for me… i need to get in the salon and get my toes/nails done. I think I’ll get a French. That way, when it starts to grow out, it wont look so bad (tsk @ me already thinking about that in advance).
I love that you sit down with Jordan and have those types of conversations (about the decisions we make and ramifications of those decisions). Kids need to hear their parents talk honestly about that.
“The common denominator in every situation is you.” That’s deep. It takes an evolved and reflective person to be able to acknowledge that!
I would like to think that I’m the type of person to reflect first, versus being reactionary. My first instinct may be too react (and about 5 years ago I may have), but over time I’ve grown to appreciate the importance of being able to take a step back and put some thought into things… before reacting based solely on emotion.
Yaki,
You know what’s funny is that I’ve always been a “reflector” …but there have been MANY situations where a more reactive type of personality was called for. I’m sitting here talking to Kira now and she’s definitely a reactor. The key is really in balance. Be humble but don’t be a pushover.
Wow, Eboni — I JUST LEFT SHANEL’S SITE — She had her Day 1 of GYIT at noon today. It just finished. I go to Facebook to check my messages and NewsFeed, I see the link to your blog (excellent), looking around it and Eboni’s down with Shanel, too! Amazing. (and why am I NOT surprised
I’ve gotta run – MUST get this food shopping thing out the way RIGHT NOW, but will chat later. (I have a book coming out in November, am in DIRE need of a business partner (full time) to handle the tech side. My background is in systems (software and software product development, network management)but I left to focus on writing a few years ago so I know exactly what it is that I need on the tech side, what it takes to manage it, and I just want to focus on the content. ANY NAMES you can throw my way via Facebook and I will be eternally grateful.
Hey Deborah! I just love Shanel’s whole vibe! I need to get on the juicing kick too…I have to dig around in her videos to find the one where she mentioned her recipe.
I’ll inbox you on FB with some of my resources.
Hi Eb!!!!!! I really enjoyed this video. I must say when I saw that the video was about 14 minutes long, I thought, wow, that is a long time, lol. However, the topic was very interesting. Kudos for the video blog, I am no sure I would be able to do it, but hey I never tried. You were so on point. Growing up my parents stressed accountability, especially my dad. THere were times when I would do things and my father would ask me the infamous, “why did you do that?” My response would often be ” i don’t know, I was not thinking.” BUT the last time I used that response with him, he gave me “the real”. He simply said that my response was not good enough. He continued by giving me his theory, which was on point. He said, “At that time you did what YOU wanted to do. You were fully aware of the consequences, but you chose to live in the moment. You obviously need to understand the difference between wants and needs.” Of course there was more, but I am so grateful for that reality check.
When I am at work I see how some people make a problem out of a tiny situation because they do not want to take responsibility for their actions. There is so much time put into creating a story, taking more time away from rectifying the problem.
We also talk to the girls and I think I am extremely hard on them, because I reflect on my co-workers. Excuses are horrible, especially when given over and over and over again. Honesty with the girls is extremely important. I always tell them, that together we can fix a situation, but it requires them to be honest with me. Don’t think about mommy being mad, and I explain to them that I know first hand panic decisions only lead to doom. Like you, I also reflect on my errors with them, because I don’t want them to think that I can not relate.
I like to think that I reflect on a situation, more than react. Part of that has to due with me being terribly shy growing up. As a child, I spent a lot of time, just watching and observing. I found and find behavior to be very intriguing. I don’t like confrontation, so before I react, I like to make sure I have facts. I’ve learned it isn’t always what it looks like, sometimes there is an explanation that one can never imagination.
Really Enjoyed!